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Forging Futures

Looking back on my past posts and the most popular one seems to be the one where I talk about people having some kind of life check list of things that they should be doing etc.  Well what can we say about that?  Everyone seems to feel the pressure of life.  I would say modern life but that wouldn't be correct, I think these types of pressure have been there since the beginning, like "Keeping up with the Jones'".   A term I also find highly amusing as my sister and her family are the Jones' and I would be exhausted and bankrupt if I tried keeping up with them considering we only really have one proper income coming into our house.

Anyway remember like a wise woman once told me "Comparison is the Death of Joy".  People should concentrate on living and enjoying their own lives otherwise they're going to miss out on what is truely in front of them.

I think women have an extraordinary amount of pressure put upon them.  From keeping a perfect home (still think you should dust if you must), to raising children (even if they might not want to), keeping their careers going and taking care of life admin for the majority of the home.  We need to cut ourselves some slack.

I consider myself very fortunate to have a roof over my head, an amazing man and two beautiful daughters.  Yes I might not be in a career I want any more and never pictured myself as a stay at home mum, but we are very fortunate that I can do that.  I know that one day I will be able to get my career back on track, the most important thing at the moment is bringing up my two girls.  I want to do my utmost to empower them and make sure they understand they can be anything they want to be and not to be a people pleaser, forge their own path and be body confident.

I was mortified when my eldest came home from nursery one day and started saying certain things were for boys and certain things were for girls, as this has definitely not come from us.  Both Mr Bus and I have worked even harder to make her realise there aren't certain things for boys or girls.  It is so important that as parents we encourage and support whatever our children want to be.  Obviously don't blow wind up their arse so they think they are the most important thing since sliced bread but keep it real.

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